Since the day SMS was born, women everywhere have spent countless hours poring over their cell phones with girlfriends, attempting to decode, analyze, and just plain figure out a response to all the vague and flat-out confusing text messages they’ve received from men.
With the help of some awesome relationship experts, Her Campus is here to decode some of the most common types of confusing text messages!
Is he simply indecisive, or does he have you on the back burner?
When a guy is evasive about what he’s doing later on, it usually isn’t because he has so many plans and just can’t decide—it’s you he can’t make his mind up about.
According to Patrick Wanis, a human behavior and relationship expert, “Often when someone hasn’t made up their mind, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re noncommittal; it really could imply something worse, such as, ‘I’m waiting for the bigger, better offer.’” Carole Lieberman, M. “What he really means is that he’s hoping for a better opportunity to come up,” she says.
“If he doesn’t find another girl to do something with (whom he likes better), he’ll settle for you.” Attempt to make the non-committer commit. ” or even ask, “What else do you have going on tonight?
” Assertive, yes, but it’s the best way to coax a direct answer from the evasive texter.
And if he still doesn’t give you a specific answer, don’t waste your time on him. And if he were sincerely interested in you, would he really let it get in the way of seeing you?
He really could have too much work to do, or he really could be out of town visiting his grandparents, or he really might be way too tired after work to see a movie.
“But, on the other hand, he's being particularly vague about making future plans, so he's not all that enthusiastic about seeing you,” Lieberman points out.
If we’ve learned anything about men, it’s that when a guy wants to see you, he will go well out of his way to ensure that it happens. With all the emails and texts and tweets and wall posts we’re flooded with on a daily basis, there is a chance your text escaped his notice.
So while not all hope is lost when a guy can’t keep a date, this type of message should make you wary. But if seeing your name on his phone doesn’t immediately grab his attention, chances are he doesn’t regard you as a top priority.