Something about the gap just doesn't compute in my brain, something is just "off" about it.I think it'd bother me less if it was say a 22 year old and a 32 year old.I guess that's just cultural conditioning on my part though. I feel like I couldn't date someone 10 years younger than me.
A 30 year old and 19 year old are in two completely different places in their lives. But if they really have a good connection and they're both happy I really don't see why it's a problem.
_________________It feels like I broke my heart again but it's just a sprain I could've sworn that I heard it snap But they tell me it's just a sprain It's been broke before but this hurts some more Stretched beyond normal capacity and possibly torn I think it would say a lot (of not so great things) about the male in question. I don't care at all what other people do, but it's very much worth keeping in mind most 30 year olds know what they want from life, know how to get it, or already have it, or the resources to get it. They're just entering adult life and exploring how to be an adult in the most basic of ways.
A 30 year old and 19 year old are in two completely different places in their lives. I'd just instantly stereotype it as the older one taking advantage of the younger one, because 90% of the time, that's going to be the case.
and the male in question basically looks the same age as the female, considering the young aspie genes in said male... This is a completely hypothetical question and is not related in any way to my personal life but it is just something I've been thinking about wildly of how society would see this situation.
I don't have an issue with it, I could understand the concern a father might have in that scenario thinking the older man might be taking advantage of someone young and naive but you can't control your kids life when they're an adult. and the male in question basically looks the same age as the female, considering the young aspie genes in said male... This is a completely hypothetical question and is not related in any way to my personal life but it is just something I've been thinking about wildly of how society would see this situation.
Pretty sure Amythest Schaber and her husband of "Ask an Autistic" You Tube fame fall under or near that category & they seem to be a wonderful, happy, healthy couple.
As with any situation where the potential for manipulation or coercion exist though, I'd say it has to be decided on a couple-by-couple basis.
Most large age gap couples I know are no more prone to such power issues than anyone else - it seems everyone only thinks of the "innocent 18 year old girl and the drug-using 30 year old man who served time for rape".
Oh, and those belonging to some conservative religions as that power play can be part and parcel of the belief system.
And from those, people seem to enjoy projecting it onto every large-age-difference couple. I kind of weirds me out a little, and my parents even had the 10 year gap, my father was 27/28 and my mother was 17/18 when they first met, I was born when my mother was 23.
I'd never go for someone that young, but I guess whatever floats their boat, they're both legal and it's not like she's being forced into it.