The following is a guest post by “Lehi,” an ex-Mormon atheist who was willing to share his story here. I allow readers to be pretty nasty to me before I show them the door.
I expect a higher level of courtesy to be shown to those who have been brave enough to make themselves vulnerable in a public space.
My spouse (let’s call her “Sariah”) and I are both descended from a long line of Mormons. We met in college when I returned, and married in the temple. It declared that same sex marriage was a moral issue of serious gravity and urged all members to do whatever we could (giving of our time, talents, and especially money) to pass Prop 8 and protect the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman.
We both grew up very Mormon –- regular church attendance, paying tithing, reading scriptures, and saying prayers. After church I mentioned to my spouse how troubled I was by the letter.
She, too, was upset and agreed it was definitely not something she would like to support.
What she said following this, however, has haunted me ever since.
She said that even though we disagreed, we should make a financial contribution to the Prop 8 campaign.
It was a test of our faith, she explained, and by doing what is asked of us, even when we disagreed — especially when we disagreed — we would be showing our trust in the Lord and His prophets.In many ways that was the beginning of the end of my Mormonism and our happy marriage.It was at this point I realized I was at a crossroads.I decided that it came down to either the Church was true or not.If it was really true, then I needed to give in 100% and stop questioning things, and turn my life over to it completely.If the Church wasn’t true, well, then what were we doing?