A whirlwind of activity begins after Fast Day on October 11.
Fall communion takes place the following church Sunday.
After communion, proper certification of membership is requested, and is given by the second Sunday after communion.
The fathers then announce the date and time of the wedding and invite the members to attend.
The betrothed couple does not attend the church service on the Sunday they are published.
Instead, the young woman prepares a meal for her fiance and they enjoy dinner alone at her home.
Family is the core element in the Amish church, and choosing a mate is the most important decision in an Amishman’s life.
Boys and girls begin their search for a spouse when they turn sixteen.
By the time a young woman turns twenty or a young man is in his early twenties, he or she is probably looking forward to the wedding day.
But several definite steps must be taken by a couple before they may marry. They are baptized into the Amish faith and are responsible for following the Ordnung.
The Ordnung is a written and unwritten set of rules for daily living.
Joining the church prepares the young people for the seriousness of setting up their own home.
The young man asks his girl to marry him, but he does not give her a diamond. The couple keeps their intentions secret until July or August.
At this time the young woman tells her family about her plans to marry.