The single life is not only about dating but also about finding ways to make new friends and to enrich your life through education, culture, or sport. *Put on your big girl panties and tell your man what you need and what you want.
“Single power,” to coin a term, is an individual’s acceptance and enjoyment of the single life as well as society’s fair treatment and respect of singles.
Certainly more singles live alone, dine alone, and travel alone than ever before.
With the rise of “single power,” we have seen such cultural shifts as restaurants not hiding single diners in the back of a restaurant and a movement toward the creation of smaller dwellings or “micro housing” for this population. They’re holding hands in the park, shopping together, and spotting each other in the gym. Online dating is time consuming and not always productive; meeting someone in the wild is also a crapshoot. Institutions, businesses, non-profits and government agencies need to band together to support singles and help us find our matches.
In honor of the 1-year birthday of this blog (February 14), I’m going to indulge in a brief interlude of narcissism.
Today’s theme: what I learned in the last year about dating, sex, and life in your 60s – and blogging.
My goal, as always, is to impart useful knowledge, make you laugh, or just be that wing woman sitting at the whine bar with you while we wonder why the hell we can’t find the one.I’m going to write this blog post in real dating time. *If a man starts to make you feel bad about yourself in any way, run to the nearest exit.In other words, I’m writing this post while texting two guys simultaneously – a guy from Tinder and a Bumble match. Consider the source and do not believe anything he says about you.Given my track record lately, one will turn out to be a Russian spy who has traveled forward in time from the cold war era and the other one will actually be a married trans woman. Join me in an anti-Valentine’s Day treat of creamy Gorgonzola and portobello mushroom risotto created by a wonderfully named chef called Nadia G (of Bitchin’ Kitchen fame). *Similarly, if a man doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, look elsewhere. One day you’ll be messaging or talking to 3 guys – all seemingly good possibilities and by the end of the next day, one has disappeared, one is revealed as a scammer, and the other one is starting to creep you out.Just substitute vegetable broth for the chicken stock and you will eat like Nadia A. Going to a bar happy hour by myself was a leap for this shy blogger. *Smile to yourself when you’re out with a couple (married or otherwise) that drives each other crazy or engages in petty fighting.And now I present my top 14 lessons learned in the last year about dating, sex, life in your 60s, and blogging: *Maximizing opportunities keeps hope alive. Later this month, I will try speed dating a second time (via a new speed dating meet-up) and attend a Match happy hour with live in the flesh as opposed to virtual men. This is related to the maximizing opportunities point above. At this moment, say, TGIS (Thank God I’m Single.) *If a man’s focus is on sex – either before or after you meet – drop him even if you want sex.