Gretchen Rubin, author of , compiled a list of 23 phrases that can help couples turn a verbal brawl back down to a constructive fight. The brutal truth is that this will get you nowhere with your boyfriend. As in, do you brazenly charge in with accusations, a smattering of profanity and hope to crudely beat your point across?
"You don't have to solve this—it helps me just to talk to you."This is a good response to any "quit whining" complaints—a non-confrontational way to let him know you need a considerate ear not a contrary opinion. "Please try to understand my point of view."One of the first things to fly out the window during an argument is empathy.
The more the accusations escalate, the more narrow-minded both parties get.
Try this simple plea early in the argument to ensure that both of you approach the issue with the other's feelings in mind.3. Please listen."You would think listening is a built-in function of any argument, but most of the time, we're too busy calculating what to say next to truly pay attention to our partner's words.
may intimidate the human race into bringing order into its international affairs" (Albert Einstein).
Browbeat suggests the persistent application of highhanded, disdainful, or imperious tactics: browbeating a witness.
Cow implies bringing out an abject state of timorousness and often demoralization: a dog that was cowed by abuse.
To bully is to intimidate through blustering, domineering, or threatening behavior: workers who were bullied into accepting a poor contract.
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