Is there someone that makes you feel intimidated or insecure? It really doesn’t matter who that person is, if at all possible, we will naturally look for ways to limit our exposure intimidation and insecurity.Does someone you know bring out these feelings in you?
Do they belittle you, or embarrass you in front of others.
Do they treat you like a child, or constantly try to put you in your place?
Any of these situations can seem intimidating, and no sane person seeks out intimidation.
Have you ever wondered what gives that scary person the emotional leverage to manipulate your feelings?
Why does it feel like they are able to take control of your feelings?
Perhaps they are your employer or supervisor and it feels like they hold your career in the palm of their hand. Maybe they are just plain mean and confrontational and you are one of their favorite targets. In a moment I am going to answer that question for you, but there is a good chance you won’t like what I am about to say.That’s because human nature being what it is, we have a tendency to make excuses.When we don’t like something that’s happening to us, we want it to be someone else’s fault.It’s a built in avoidance technique that I am about to take issue with, but trust me, it’s not personal. That scary person gets their power to jerk you around and take control from one source and one source only. If you didn’t give it to them, they would be powerless.They simply cannot intimidate you or make you feel insecure without your permission.Now, I don’t expect you to just accept that without some explanation, so let’s drill down a bit and see if I can convince you.