“People are so used to seeing professional, airbrushed photos in the media so a selfie will almost always look really amateurish and like you don’t care.” The Zoosk survey also found that men who used the words ‘baby’ and ‘beautiful’ in their first message to women were 10 and 13 per cent respectively less likely to get a response.
This awkward personal resume is the first thing people see, and can mean the difference between a date and an unreturned message.
Here’s how to craft a profile that will help you stand out without feeling awkward. No matter what service you use (or if you’re meeting people online) you’re still working towards the same goal: meeting someone you find attractive.
While you’re making your own profile, try to keep in mind that there’s a real person behind theirs. That means that the best thing you can do for yourself is This is the part that trips up a lot of people because putting yourself on a dating site can feel inherently vulnerable.
The report, commissioned by dating website Zoosk, also found that men were more likely to have success with online dating if their profile featured a picture taken outside (with 19 per cent more messages), while women who posted outdoors pictures got 40 per cent fewer messages on average.
Susan Quilliam, a relationships coach who runs courses in online dating, said women might be more likely to contact a man who mentions a divorce because this offers reassurance that he is now single.
“In my courses I get a lot of enquiries about how to know whether people are single from their online profile, and most of those enquiries come from women.If men talk about exes, women get the impression he’s being honest and open about his relationship status now.“On the other hand, men might be more wary of women who look like they’ve got a lot of relationship history.They want to be the most important man in a women’s life.I wouldn’t say that’s sexist necessarily, it’s just down to gender differences.” She added that selfies were a no-no for men because they so often looked uncomfortable when taking them.“The most important thing in your profile picture is to look welcoming – I haven’t found it matters so much whether it’s inside or outside – and that’s hard to do when you’re taking a picture of yourself.