A common misconception is that once a man learns he’s HIV-positive, he’ll behave in an unsafe, reckless way—that the damage is done and he no longer has to worry about protecting himself.
In fact, the positive man must protect himself even more, to safeguard his health from pesky ancillary viruses.
For him, that means avoiding those question marks at all costs.
Of course, condom use should be nonnegotiable in any dating scenario. So often you will hear a gay man prematurely divulge his negative HIV status as soon as one of his friends brings up the topic.
But a man who is up front with his status should put you at ease. Be wary—he may just be the guy who convinces himself he is negative just because he doesn’t know whether he is positive.
Truth is, if he has had even one sexual encounter since his last test, he is a question mark.
reruns not to become disillusioned with the prospect of finding love.
Unfortunately, Tylenol doesn’t cure heartache, and a breakup can seem to break you altogether.
Still, we keep trying and hope the next one will love us for all the reasons the last one didn’t.The good news: As we get older, the image of the man we see standing beside us at the altar starts to take shape. Learning which risks are unavoidable and which are optional is something crucial for us to do when swimming in the dating pool.We curb dating wildly inappropriate people and become more discerning when choosing our Friday night dinner guests. Protection from possible disease, including HIV, should be on the mind of every single gay man.The bad news: With every potential love comes a series of risks. However, the risk of dating someone who is HIV-positive is severely misunderstood.As the years start to tick by, every bet we make on love seems to be a little more weighted. As for the actual risk of dating a man who doesn’t know his status—a human question mark—that’s when you should hold on to your chips.You may think that dating an HIV-positive man increases your risk of infection. If your prospective mate has the gumption to disclose his positive status before the first round of cocktails, you can be certain that he has taken steps to protect your negative status.