"Letters from Egypt," a blog discussing becoming acclimated in Egyptian society after moving from the US in 2008, along with the lessons and adventures I stumbled upon during my nearly seven years there.“My Mohamed is Different,” or MMD, as told to me by a friend of mine regarding foreign women dating Egyptians (alternately, I prefer MAD - My Ahmed is Different).We’ve all heard the stories, and unfortunately, you find very few successful situations regarding a union between a foreign woman and an Egyptian man.
First of all, you need to do your own research into laws and your rights as not only a female, but a foreign female (the same is true for foreign men).
One foreign woman, Kirsten*, married Mohamed* in 2001 and was pregnant with her first child just three months later.
She said that once children became involved, her life took on a new role.
She had given up on her husband and instead directed her energy toward her children.
“The time when the man treats you well, buying you [special] gifts and [going out of his way] all changes once you’re married,” she said.
In 2009, Kirsten found out Mohamed had cheated profusely during the entire duration of their marriage.
She opted to leave him and began divorce proceedings in the beginning of 2010 (it was not finalized until November of that year).
Kirsten wishes that she would have known certain things prior to marriage, including having the option to live with Mohamed.
“I wish I’d held off on having children until I knew my rights more.” Had she held off on having children, Kirsten believes she would have left the marriage after the first year.
In the West, extended family does not play as much of a role as it does in the Arab world.
Kirsten pointed out how in Egypt, the extended family plays a role to the “point of interference.” She said, “If the husband has done something wrong, it’s the wife’s fault.