It’s also important that girls advocate for what they want, whether it’s sexual or not.
But are there greater risks to consider with a large age gap between partners?
Ethan Bennett, 26, and Mia Thompson, 18, haven’t been affected by an eight-year difference — two years more than the formula’s appropriate “cut off age.” The pair met on the University of Minnesota campus, which offered a free prep session led by college students.
Bennett, a senior in college, and Thompson, a junior in high school, didn’t think about dating each other when they first met.
“I remember that we were paired up as study buddies for the eight-week session.
In the beginning I only thought about teaching Mia ways to calm down and convince herself about her own abilities,” Bennett said. During those eight weeks, it wasn’t uncommon for her parents to see me around her, but as we began to grow closer, it was her mom that noticed first and confronted us.” “It wasn’t as bad as you think,” Thompson said about her parents’ reaction to dating a college student.
“But as we got to know each other more, we found we had a lot in common, such as spending hours reading a book in Barnes & Noble and bowling with friends at night. “I’m pretty sure it would’ve been a different story if my dad caught on first. “She did warn Ethan about what would happen if he broke my heart and what she would allow her husband to do to him if he did.
Even our majors, or in her case future major, were alike. She didn’t jump to conclusions like I (thought) she would’ve. as she asked questions.” The couple has been together for two years and never thinks about their age difference.
“To be honest, if (Mia) never told me her age, I would have thought that she was close to the same age as me,” Bennett said.
They both scoffed at the notion of a “dating formula.” ”That’s rich, really rich. (He) probably thought that this would help keep older guys away from his daughter, or something like that.” Throughout the 2000s, the longitudinal Toledo Adolescent Relationships Study by Peggy Giordano proposed that girls tend to be more mature in relationships because of the intimate bonds they commonly develop with same-sex peers.