I am going to be given a sum of £1,500 and want to spend it on finding a companion. I have looked at websites and find them so off-putting.
I am sorry to withdraw my services, but please don’t write in after today.
Unless, of course, anything I have said over the past few years has helped you, in which case I would be very happy to hear from you.
I want to start looking at your problem, Jennifer, by challenging your assumption that most people of your age are lonely.
Some people are lonely, I do agree, and it is a downside of ageing that there is shrinkage and loss.
The end of a working life signals a loss of colleagues and team spirit.
The end of a relationship, through divorce or death, is harder to recover from.
Children are grown and gone, and it is easy to feel superfluous and unwanted.
The way to survive is to battle these thoughts head on and to reach out and do something.
It hardly matters what that is: it could be phoning a friend; walking out of the front door and going somewhere; arranging a future trip; signing on for a course; or volunteering your help – anything that takes you out of this gloomy mindset and reconnects you with the world beyond your door.
And this applies whatever age you are, whether you are a broken-hearted 20-year-old, a redundant 40-year-old, a divorced 50-year-old or a socially isolated pensioner.
You live in the middle of London, which is a huge advantage.